Ooooh dear, dear...dear..this may sound harsh, sigh!
Please, allow me to clarify, I appreciate folks' and feel deeply for concerns! But, and that's a big , deep BUT, sometimes hearing the same depressing life issues, complaints and karma carnage pounded, rehashed and rolled on every single conceivable moment, can be lethal to the senses!
Flag me, I'm being all too unkind, yes probably, but there are some folks, with much painful regret, I truly must step back from, - for the moment. These people (forgive my saying) but they suck the life out of you. Every thing seems to be gloom and doom, from the words they vomit, to the actual projectile spewed in their life. Now, it is one thing to be a listening ear, another to be a willing doormat, and a vapid accomplice to victim mentality!
Yes, life can be harsh and seeded with problems, but a great harvest of it, we actually have a hand in sowing!! It makes no sense to forever blame others for the bleak situation we're mired in. Answers will manifest but only when we humble ourselves to wisely ask for clarity and direction ,instead of aiming arrows and throwing darts at an invisible harbinger of endless dark days.The Twilight vampires had more luck!
This is not breaking ties or cutting chords - but till I feel wholly complete in body ( I have had the flu) mind and spirit, and until I have resolved my own web of concerns, I simply will be of no use hearing out casualty and complaints occurring for years on end. To continually immerse myself in the black aura of doomy' dementors would adversely affect my own sense of well being. At times you just have to stand up and say, no way.
Please, allow me to clarify, I appreciate folks' and feel deeply for concerns! But, and that's a big , deep BUT, sometimes hearing the same depressing life issues, complaints and karma carnage pounded, rehashed and rolled on every single conceivable moment, can be lethal to the senses!
Flag me, I'm being all too unkind, yes probably, but there are some folks, with much painful regret, I truly must step back from, - for the moment. These people (forgive my saying) but they suck the life out of you. Every thing seems to be gloom and doom, from the words they vomit, to the actual projectile spewed in their life. Now, it is one thing to be a listening ear, another to be a willing doormat, and a vapid accomplice to victim mentality!
Yes, life can be harsh and seeded with problems, but a great harvest of it, we actually have a hand in sowing!! It makes no sense to forever blame others for the bleak situation we're mired in. Answers will manifest but only when we humble ourselves to wisely ask for clarity and direction ,instead of aiming arrows and throwing darts at an invisible harbinger of endless dark days.The Twilight vampires had more luck!
This is not breaking ties or cutting chords - but till I feel wholly complete in body ( I have had the flu) mind and spirit, and until I have resolved my own web of concerns, I simply will be of no use hearing out casualty and complaints occurring for years on end. To continually immerse myself in the black aura of doomy' dementors would adversely affect my own sense of well being. At times you just have to stand up and say, no way.
Very profound. I see what you are talking about Lady. I try not to voice all my problems on my blog, but there are times I do vent a little. I can understand though, because there are a couple of places that are continuously griping about one thing or another and I've decided to just cut back on those blogs a little. As for people offline, well our families don't live here where we do, so we are fine, just fine. :D Hey, take care and get well. Always nice to read your posts.
ReplyDeleteI try never to blog for an audience, meaning whatever comes out, comes out. I don't really like what I will call "sunshine-head syndrome" ~ pretending to be all shiny and happy, to placate others. I think our blogs are manifestations of ourselves ~ sometimes joyful, sometimes a little blue. The nice thing about the blogosphere is that we can choose what we want and don't want to read.
ReplyDeletexo ~rox
ps i had the most wonderful experience lately ~ one of my meatspace acquaintances told me she loved my blog. wow ... was i floored. to have someone tell me to my face ... how cool.
Since 2010, I have taken time to put myself first. Though I love my friends and family, those who drain me I spend less time with.
ReplyDeleteI am lot happier and don't feel as burdened as I use to.
absolutely! i feel the same way!
ReplyDeletei have friends like that with whom i've spent hours with on the phone and the same issues resurface over the years.
i've learned to be really careful myself. years and years ago i realized that i started doing that. and i thought to myself, if i continue this my friends will start dreading phone calls from me.
beautiful photo, btw ..
ReplyDeleteAmen. I read in one of the Conversations with God series about suffering and complaining about that suffering...it said we actually create suffering in others when we complain to them. Made sense to me. I think that's why I stopped speaking to old friends of mine and my entire biological family. I'm interested in peace. They aren't. They are interested in staying sick, in staying stuck. I'm interested in getting healthy, in progressing and getting better. I believe my greatest desire is to enjoy my life. I think that's how I can make the biggest change in this world because every thing else will come from that. I can't be that when I'm being held back by a bunch of people who just don't get it. They don't want to see themselves for who they really are because then they'd have to admit they are the most responsible for where their life is. It's painful to realize that. It's painful to become healthy mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Most people don't want to do the work. I feel bad for them to a certain degree, but I've done the work, others can do it too IF THEY WANT TO, if not, I cannot help them.
ReplyDeleteThere are things in my life that I don't care for, that bother me, annoy me, cause me pain. But I've learned that my complaining about it doesn't help the situation, it only roots me in place. Talking it over with someone to arrive at new knowledge does help. Furthermore, I do my best to follow what the new knowledge advised. There are some things we can change and some things we cannot. Acceptance has become a close companion of mine. That has changed my life from being one of upset to grace, peace, joy.
Being married to my best friend has also helped me a ton. He's a gem! Smartest thing I ever did was marry him and then furthermore accept him as the wonderful amazing person he is.
~magick~
Melissa